Actions Speak Louder than Words Sometimes

“A wise person learns from others experiences, whereas sometimes we learn from our own mistakes.”

Greetings All,

I hope you all are doing well. Was there ever a point in your life when you had to decide on choice, however, you were stuck in the middle only to be left there picking yourself wondering what happened? Yes I am quite sure most of us have been put into a situation before where we were indecisive about something or someone only for the something to pass you up or someone make the decision for you. When you allow someone to take your power, it can make you feel powerless.

We have to be careful with our mind, body, energy and soul because if you are indecisive, you may attract others who are just as indecisive who will not give you a straight answer. Being indecisive can be one of your worst enemies.

Sometimes The Most High and Son can put someone in front of us who mirror our exact same actions or thoughts to remind us that we maybe doing the same things to others who may feel a certain way we may not always take into consideration.

We have to be cognizant of our own experiences.

It’s okay to say yes. Its okay to say no sometimes. Its okay to change your mind later. You can’t please everyone let alone beat around the bush because you can say “No” at this present time and maybe later revisit the situation later with a yes. Opportunities will come and go. It’s up to us to decide on what opportunities we say “Yes or No” too. Be strong, firm, confident, and powerful in your choices you make in life.

What you say is power and your actions are power. Our Tongue and Actions can speak or show life or death, positive or negative.

One of our responsibilities in life is too experience life and share our experiences with others.

As a wanderlust, I will work towards leaving the baggage behind. I will turn the baggage into personal experiences I can share with others.

In closing, Remember that only you can control your own power. Do not allow anyone else to take it from you or make the decision for you. Feel free to stand by your “yes or no” answer. People will respect you more for being upfront with them vs being indecisive.

It’s okay if you have to think about your answer, however, understand the pros, cons to the situation, make a choice.

7: The Beginning of a New Life

Greetings All,

I hope all is well and you are having a good weekend so far. I am not much of a person who can share my personal life outside of my work, however, today I will do something different. This post will not intentionally depress you as my goal is for you to leave this post feeling good about life.

November for me, is a month that I have mixed emotions about. On one hand, we are in the middle of the fall which allows nature to display some of the most beautiful colors we see on the trees. On the other hand, it does symbolize that the old life departs for the winter, before new life begins in the spring.

November sometimes leaves me feeling empty inside because on this day, November 10, 1995, one of my Brothers passed away. Being young at the time, I sorta already had an understanding of death due to another family member passing away a year and a half prior. Selfishly, I miss him, however, at the same time, I understand he was only supposed to be around for 17 years. His football number was number 7, which the school decided to retire after his death. I have to admit, he’s the reason why Bone Thugs-N-Harmony is one of my favorite rap groups. Overall, though I didn’t have too much time to spend with him based on the the age difference, however, I do remember saying to both of my brothers all the time, “Shut up Marcus, Shut up Jodie.” I do appreciate the time, you allow me to come with you and your friends one particular day to hang out with you. Good Times Brother. I do hope I am able to see you again so I can tell you once again, “Shut up Marcus.” :)

On a positive note, This month is my 7th year of being a photographer. My first assignment was being invite to photography a music video shoot for local Columbus Artist FeeNix. It wasn’t a paid gig, however, it was an opportunity to get into photographing people. It was quite an exciting opportunity to be able to photograph a couple of pics of her because it would lead to where I am today as far as my photography work. I began to understand that while we can capture the memories of people and life into our minds, pictures are worth being able to go relieve a moment, opportunity or event. Humbly, I overall feel blessed to have this talent. I thank The Heavenly Father and Son for this gift. Overall each day, I look to improve myself and art.

I want to end this entry on a positive note. Enjoy life to the fullest, Do the things you want to do while you can. Most importantly, Enjoy your Sunday and week ahead.

The Time Is Now

Greetings All,

I hope all is well. Today, when I was blessed to open my eyes at 530 am, I realized that I was up for a reason. Instead of going back to sleep, I decided to check around social media and I see what most people have been up too over the weekend. Yet after 2 mins of doing that, something was telling me, “Dude, this is the time to post something.” I also began to realize that we all have a grace period and we never know when it will be our time to depart from this planet. So today after some a brief realization of how precious life can be and how quick it can be taken, the thought that’s been weighing on me for a few months have finally hit its toll.

I have a ton of work, I have been sitting on for years now and it’s no point in it collecting cyber dust. I haven’t gotten around to post so I think today is the day to begin to start sharing some of my work.

Today I share a shoot I did on at the beginning of a hot sultry summer with Nise Dione.

Depending on where you are at in life, the time to do something is now. Do not wait until tomorrow or next week to do it. You may not be able to do it, get around to do it, or you may depart from this place before you have the time to do it. You never know what the unknown will lead you too until you go through with it. Commit to it and follow through your commit through your actions.

Stop holding yourself back!

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Spirit and Energy

Greetings All,

I hope you all had a great weekend. This weekend was an interesting positive life experience. I will say that it did start out bad, however, after a talk with someone, it turned out good in the end. I will share my experience about it, however, I will not say names. This is not a bashing blog. The most important lessons to take from all of this are to understand spirit, energy, and learn when to cut people off when they show you through their actions they're not interested in you.

It started 9 days ago when I inbox someone about a photo project I am working on. The person didn't respond back until 3 days later. The person was interested. After our conversation, I checked in with the individual the day before the shoot and nothing was exchanged. Then Friday the day of the shoot, I checked in to see if we were still on schedule to shoot and nothing was said or even read, however, the individual made a status update on FB. By that time, I was a bit annoyed because of the fact it only takes a second to reply to a message. By the evening, the individual blocked me. I was quite pissed at that point.

It was at that point, I spoke to a close friend about the situation and when I showed them the inbox, my friend concluded that based on the inbox, the person said they were interested but they really were not interested based on their one-sentence statement. Not to mention, we both concluded that even though its social media, a lot of people paint a picture of who they really are on social media and in real life. I am not saying that is the case for everyone because some can be whoever they want to be until you meet them, some will tell you who they are based on what they say, post, and some don't have time to devote to putting everything about them on social media. We concluded that based on the person, profile, they probably have been hurt a lot by people and may not know how to confidently say they are not interested in something. It takes courage to confront someone about something. the individual chose to run and not say they were not interested in participating in my project from the jump. The individual probably didn't understand that my proposal was for a photo shoot not trying to get with them by no means. Nothing in my conversation with the individual suggested that I was trying to hook up with the individual. For the record, if I want to get to know or date an individual, I will let it be known up front what I am looking for. I have no time for hidden agendas or use my work as a crutch to get with women. 

At first, I was mad at the individual. But after my conversation with my friend about the situation, I felt bad for the individual for being put through so much in with men in her life and not having the courage to say up front, Thanks but I am not interested in the project. Sometimes we have the eye to see right through a person from the start. The answer is right in front of us, however, sometimes we try to force the door to open when clearly The Most High and Son wants the door closed.

This experience brings me to energy and spirit. I believe that it takes spirit and energy to make a connection. If the chemistry and vibe are positive, the connection will feel natural. It will not feel awkward or be forced. This does not mean everyone will be open at first. Some people take time for them to open because they are protecting their inner soul and everyone isn't worthy of seeing their most inner core. We should not chase after people or something who do not feel the same way.

Some people will say yes, just not hurt our feelings, however, actions speak louder than words. If their actions or putting you off all the time say otherwise, then it’s time to cut bait on them and move on. It makes no sense to lead someone on or give them false hope if you are not truly interested in something or someone. I do understand when someone says, "They need time to think about it or We'll see," that's totally okay. When someone makes those statements, it means they need to have a better understanding of what it is or the person before they make their final decision. Those statements can also mean in a nice way, "Not right now or I am not interested at this time." They can change their mind later though.

Timing also plays a critical role too. Based on where the individual is at this point in their life, the person or opportunity may be right, but the timing is wrong. If a person has their mind made up, they have courage and confidence enough to tell you yes or no. If they say no, thank them for their time and depart. No need to force it, if they are not willing to open for you. We should stop allowing our minds to go into a negative place if a person is not interested in you. We delay our opportunities when we stay upset at someone whose indifferent about us from the start.

Why continue to chase something or someone who does not share the same interest or lifestyles we have or want? Love and hate are strong emotions with similar behaviors. If you love something you will fight for it. If you hate something you will fight against it. If they have no love or interest for you, then why waste the time and energy fighting for them? We chase people who are indifferent about us sometimes. There is no love or hate there, however, they have no interest and do not want you to be a part of their life. 

Life is like the stock market in a sense. When you make an investment, it’s a 50% chance of a return on the investment and a 50% chance you lose it. There is no need to get upset with someone if they are not interested. We made the initial investment not them. We must look at ourselves and say okay that's the way life goes. Life does not always go according to plan. We continue to strive forward. If someone wants you in their life, they will not hesitate to put you there. Don't worry about them not wanting you or to be a part of what you are doing, when there are plenty of people who will fight with you and be a part of you. Those people who are indifferent about you are not losing any sleep over their decision and neither should you. At the end of the day, we cannot make or force anyone to do anything. They have to make the decision through themselves and actions to commit to something. 

Aside from that experience, I was booked to photograph a 70th Birthday party for a client on Saturday night which is also a fun, positive, and enjoyable experience. It was a good opportunity to network and be around people that were willing to allow me to capture her milestone. The experience felt natural, fun, and positive. As always, I appreciate anyone who allows me the opportunity to capture their inner soul, family, events or gatherings.

In closing, I will say put yourself first. Love yourself first. Choose your own path, journey, and happiness. Try to understand your spirit and energy. Once you do, it will become easier to figure out who's interested and not. The signs are always there, however, we sometimes ignore them and when we do, we only have ourselves to blame. That is okay too because we’re not bulletproof. We are supposed to go through the trials and tribulations daily. Just know and understand when it’s time to cut bait. Know how to connect with your spirit and energy, then it will be a little easier to see who’s for you and who’s not. 

I wish you all safe journeys and a great week ahead. 

Racquel loving her self.

London Mahogany will help and encourage anyone. 

When Two Goddesses Link...

Follow the positive light.

Your heart will desire what it wants, however, If we are spirit first, then we must walk in Spirit.